Do You Ooze Confidence?
Some people just ooze with confidence! I’m sure you have bumped into them or maybe you are one of them.
What can we attribute it to? Are they of the Bubbly Blue personality or the Forward Red? Sometimes the quietest person can have the greatest self esteem and oozing confidence.
I hesitate to admit it, but sometime I can feel and show great confidence and other times I want to walk down another aisle in the store to avoid people because I don’t feel so engaging at that time. Oops, I just tattled on myself. 
There are things we can practice in our life that will enhance our self confidence. Quite possibly, you may have these particular things in place as you interact with others. If not, then let this be motivation for us all to spruce up on your relational skills.
1. When greeting others, look them in the eye and smile big. A friendly smiling person always lends a bright moment to someones day. It conveys “I am happy, I like myself, and I like you!”
2. When shaking a person’s hand make sure it is a good hearty solid handshake, without hurting them, of course. A wimpy limp handshake does not spell confidence.
3. When someone gives you a compliment, just appreciate it and say “thank you.” There is no need to down play their genuineness by making a remark such as, “Oh, this old thing.”
When my daughter was an exuberant 3 year old (many years ago as she has her own 3 year old now) we attended a baby shower where she was complimented on her pretty blue dress. Her reply, as she pranced and twirled around? “Thank you! We got it at the Goodwill!”
4. When someone praises you for your accomplishments be careful not to brag. Bragging only shows your lack of self esteem or respect. Just receive the honor with humility and defer your success to someone else.
5. When things aren’t going so great for you, refrain from bringing up your problems in every conversation. Put a positive twist on an adverse circumstances and look for the good instead of focusing on the negative. Complainers and whiners are not good company, don’t you agree?
6. When you encounter rejection or make a mistake, don’t let it paralyze you. Let it be an opportunity to learn and grow, to become better not bitter. Be careful to not have the victim mentality and blame someone or something for your misfortunes. Own up, realizing you are not a failure, but this type of situation can help you become your best self.
7. Lastly, and most importantly create a self talk that facilitates self confidence. A powerful self talk can over ride any negativity you may have towards yourself and how you behave when interacting with others.
Life is full of blessings and also ups and downs. We may feel defeated and discouraged. We get overworked, tired and even moody at times. When I was a moody adolescent girl, people always knew how I felt cause I wore my feelings all over my face. It’s a good thing that we grow up and out of our self-absorbed childish behaviors.
If you ever feel your self confidence lagging, realize it is not a permanent situation and be sure these seven motivations are present in your life. If they are, you will overcome any stumbles and glide along smoothly, emerging with oozing confidence on the other side. Every experience can be a time for growing into our best confident self.
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Hi Lynn,
Attitude really can make or break a situation. Especially if you have a bad attitude about yourself – it can really set the day’s tone. I keep a list of all my successes now so I automatically think of them first. If you dwell on things not going right it will take that much longer to feel confident again. Great tips, nice post..
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Hi Lesly, You said it well about how attitude can certainly affect our life! We have a choice everyday as to what to give attention to. Show gratitude and be positive or focus on what ain’t going right and whine. I’d rather have a blessed day instead of a downer.
That being said, you have a fabulously blessed day!
Your friend,
Lynn
Great ,great reminders, Lynn. An everday challenge for me is to fill my thoughts with encouraging and empowering thoughts. It’s taken me years to gather the courage to look someone in the eyes when greeting them, give a sincere handshake, and SMILE (not grin). Here’s to mastering committed and effective interpersonal contact with all people regardless of one’s state-of-mind or circumstances. May God continue to bless you, Lynn, for sharing your gifts.
Frank, Hopefully we continue to grow in Personal Development or we are not very happy campers! I understand the challenge to keep our thoughts pure and positive. We must keep on our toes and reject any poison that wants to infiltrate our minds and bring us down.
Bless you Frank!
Lynn
Lynn,
Truly motivating, and a fantastic read to strengthen my day! I can feel the power which resonates, from your presentation.
I agree with keeping a positive attitude is a key factor, in self-motivation techniques. You have captured, true content, that will help all your readers!
Thoughts feelings of doubt is a mind destroyer. We must surround ourselves with positive people and a loving envirnment which will assist in keeping us balanced.
Lynn, you are a true support of others, and a great leader in our business. I thank you for sharing such a hard subject, to present. You have a unique format, for delivering, usable content. I look forward to the next subject, that will help all your readers, personal growth.
Wow, William, you really know how to leave an absolutely inspiring comment. You have inspired me! Forget about my article, you have written one yourself!
You are so spot on……doubt or negative feeling are a mind destroyer. Or I like to call it poison. It is a challenge everyday to keep the proper mindset…….and you, as well as many others help me do that.
Thank you William for sharing you wisdom and loving comments.
Your friend,
Lynn
Lynn, great article! I think of myself as one of the quite confident ones. A lot of the points that you bring up are so true, one that really brings to point, is bragging. I personally find it such a turn off for someone to continuously brag right after receiving a complement or trying to prove something.
Hi Adrian,
I appreciate your comment. Something I have been taught over the years is to always defer any compliments or praise you get to someone else. Whether it be your mentors, your parents, your teachers, your pastor…….someone has spoke into your life and they deserve the credit and praise that someone may just have given you. Which is so opposite of bragging.
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your friend,
Lynn
Hi Lynn,
Great article you have here!That feeling of confidence is so good and in addition you don’t need something external.Self confidence is a habit..you create everyday with your thougts,feelings and words!Your tips are realy helpful in building a strong self image:)A smile is the universal language of joy and confidence.That’s why is so important to smile when you meet somobody.
Thanks for sharing,
Radu
Radu, Yes, we have to create our world of confidence, positive thoughts, gratitude, blessings, etc, everyday! We can’t let the world and what happens out there control us. We have to purpose to live life to the fullest, smile a lot and laugh out loud everyday and hopefully we will be a blessing to others in the process.
Yes, a smile is the universal language of JOY. I like that!
Your friend,
Lynn
Hi, Lynn! I am SO with you on these points! It really is true that as you give off confidence, those around you will also be confident. It is contagious — as is negativity. These are 7 great points and sometimes a person might just have to “fake it ’til it you make it!”
God bless,
TK
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T.K., You know, we may not always feel like doing these things, but if we purpose to implement them in our life, I believe we will feel blessed and grateful everyday. I really appreciate that you came by my page and left your comment.
BTW, (in reference to your last article) my 3 grandsons love banging on our piano. I wonder which one or how many of them will want to pursue music when they get a bit older.
Be blessed!
Lynn
This is such a wonderful post on confidence! And I can completely relate to having days where my confidence is just on overdrive and other days where I would prefer to be hiding under a rock!
I grew up incredibly shy, and have worked on my confidence pretty much my entire life. My post this week is actually about a tool I use that has significantly helped my confidence…so seems great minds think alike!
All of your tips are right on ~ and I must say, for me, a hearty hand shake is SO important. Especially for women ~ with men I almost expect it, but when a woman has a strong handshake, then I know this is a powerful woman who is making things happen! And smiles, showing appreciation, practicing humility and keeping a positive mind will all definitely keep your energy and confidence operating at the level that will have you oozing success!
Fabulous post, thanks Lynn!
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Lynn,
Thanks for bring me back to the “dirt” world. Spend so much time at the keyboard it is good to be reminded that face to face still exists. Making that first impression is crucial. Being personable and always coming from you heart is essential. Your reminder of the important parts is a welcome refresher.
RICK
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Sometimes it is the simplest things that we do that increase our confidence in our self.
Thanks for those tips about improving ones self confidence. Always great to have a positive attitude and think positive things about yourself and especially others.
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I can certainly relate to wanting to go down a different aisle to avoid talking with someone. Sometimes I’m glad I spend so much time at home, getting out only two or three times a week! But I’m learning to be more outgoing, especially for the sake of others. The more I grow, the more confidence I have. I look forward to the day when I will “ooze confidence”.
Willena Flewelling
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Right on. Hit home a lot. Esp on moody, focus on negativity and bragging. Just wish I am more grown up. Thx for the reminder, that, i need to keep working on my interpersonal skills.
Hi Lynn,
powerful suggestions! Very much enjoy reading them and being reminded of those great tools.
I have been practicing smiling at strangers when I am out and about and them amounts of smiles I am getting back is increasing.
I find journalling helps me to process any feelings and implement my positive self talk.
Thank you for the great post!
Love and Joy
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Great article Lynn. Here’s another way of looking at the whole self-confident persona. Often times people who appear to be self-confident on the outside are far from confident on the inside – in fact some very well known public figures suffer from stage fright and all manner of affilictions at the very thought of having to appear in public – and yet they put themselves in situations to have to do that day after day. Some times the confident demeanor serves as a protective wall hiding their insecurities, other times it’s simply a matter of refusing to allow fear to rule their lives.
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Hi Lynn,
I also can have swings of confidence and then be lacking in it. I do my best to be aware of it when lacking, be ok with it, and then change my negative self talk into a positive one.
You really hit on all the key points here. superb job!
Talk soon,
Kevin
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I love these tips.I especially like the handshake tip.Those wimpy handshakes are the worst.I am confident in some areas and not in others.I do attempt to do all your tips so people are not aware when I am feeling shy.Thanks for a great post.
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Ones attitude can make or break many things. A few that come to mind is how others view you, how successful one will be in business, entrepreneurship, life and who knows what else. Our emotions on so many levels are powerful things without even realizing it they can paralyze someone, hence the phrase its all in your head.
I believe I read somewhere that the lack of confidence is just a lack of experience and that the more you do something the more comfortable you will be with it and will reap the benefits. It sounds spot on but who is to say how many follow through with it.
I love all of the points you mention in this post. Our attitude effects everything and we can weaken our confidence when we are speaking in a negative way. Sometimes a bad day can get us going in that direction. Thanks for the tips.
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Hi Lynn,
What great reminders! I especially love the emphasis on shifting from the negative thinking and focusing on the positive – finding the good in every situation. I look at bad situations and bad feelings as reminders to myself that I need to focus on what I want to feel instead – they motivate me to take steps toward the good feeling things.
Lori
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Hi Lynn,
I really enjoyed this…a nice reminder not to wear your negative emotions on your sleeve.
Thanks again
Tina
Hi Tina!
How true! Negativity will cloud our minds and affect our progress. It’s not always easy to be at our best at all times but we can sure try!
Have a fabulous day!
Hey Lynn,
I also feel confident and very capable most of the time but there are times when I feel like a teenage kid again- unsure of self and lacking confidence big time… I guess those moments are the times when we are out of our comfort zone or maybe just emotionally drained. Either way, your list is full of things anyone can do and they certainly will help you boost your confidence in any given situation.
Thanks,
James
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